We all work hard to make a living, to progress and to lead a happy life. Efforts and ability to achieve our goals constitute an important part of our activity. Certainly, every time we make efforts we cannot succeed. But the problem with fear is that it reduces the chances of our success to the bare minimal.
10 of the reasons why this happens are listed below:
The greatest deterrent to success in life is fear. It drains our ambition, denies us power, and strangles our ability to overcome the challenges we face in our personal and professional lives. Regardless if you are a manager in business, leading a team of salespeople to meet your quarterly goals, or involved in a serious relationship that is going through some tough times, we all deal with fear everyday fear of failing to meet a deadline or a budgetary constraint, fear of letting down our co-workers or our children, or fear of rejection from a loved one. These are normal fears with abnormal repercussions. It's how you deal with them that matters.
Fear comes in many different forms. There are a variety of things that we are afraid of. Some are very specific, like dogs or spiders, and some are more general, like being afraid to try new things or speaking your mind in front of others. Among these different types of fear, there is one that can have a direct impact on your potential for success: fear of failure.
Fear of failure is the emotional, cognitive, and behavioral reaction to the negative consequences you anticipate for failing to achieve a goal. It is the intense worry, the negative thinking, and the reluctance to take action you experience, when you imagine all the horrible things that could happen if you failed to achieve a goal.
Fear of failure can cause many headaches. In the short-run, fear of failure influences the types of goals you pursue, the kinds of strategies you use to achieve them, and the level of standards you set as indicators of success. When choosing which goals to pursue, people with a higher dose of fear of failure tend to focus their efforts more on preventing losses than achieving gains. For example, they may choose to work overtime because they don’t want to be perceived as slackers by their managers and thus risk getting fired, instead of working overtime to finish a new project that they hope will have a huge impact on their career. In addition, they tend to avoid situations in which they expect they will be evaluated and judged. For example, they may avoid making a sales pitch to an important client, for fear of failing to be persuasive enough to close the deal client.
In the long-run, fear of failure could cause even bigger problems that affect a person’s physical and mental health. People with fear of failure often experience fatigue and low energy, they feel emotionally drained, they are more dissatisfied with their lives, they experience chronic worry and hopelessness, and their performance in the relevant domains becomes objectively worse.
Behaving in an apprehensive manner, such as worrying, fretting, and imagining the worst, activates the bodies stress response. The stress response causes the body to make physiological, psychological, and emotional changes that enhance the body’s ability to deal with danger – to either fight or flee – which is why the stress response is also referred to as the fight or flight response.
Stress responses, however, stress the body, which can tax the bodies energy resources harder than normal. Too frequent stress responses can leave the body devoid of energy, which can make your body experience chronic fatigue.
The more stressed the body becomes, the more fatigued the body can become. Behaving apprehensively too often can overly stress the body and make it feel exhausted, such as with chronic fatigue.
If you've been under a lot of stress lately, that stress can also make your body feel chronically fatigued, exhausted, and tired all the time. Stress is a common cause of chronic fatigue.
Many people misinterpret anxiety and stress caused chronic fatigue for Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Fortunately, they are the same and the remedy for both is the same.
In 1990, psychologists Peter Salovey (now president of Yale University) and John Mayer wrote seminal article on Emotional Intelligence (EQ), defining it as "the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one's own and others' feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one's thinking and actions." (p. 189) this concept was popularized by Daniel Goleman's very successful books on the topic.
There is no doubt that EQ is crucial to success in life. During one interview, Dr. Goleman related a story about a high.school reunion where it was discovered that the most successful man in the group had not been the smartest or hardest working boy in school but the nicest boy who knew how to make everyone feel relaxed and comfortable with him. In the workplace, you may also have noticed this phenomenon: It is not always the best workers who receive raises and promotions but the workers with the best social and political skills.
Research substantiates this simple observation. A 40-year longitudinal investigation of 450 boys found that IQ had little relation to life success. The most significant predictors were being able to handle frustration, control emotions, get along with other people. Another study followed 80 scientists over the course of forty years and found that that social and emotional abilities were four times more important than IQ in determining professional success and prestige. Even more surprising, a study of retired National Football League players found that emotional intelligence predicted 62% of the variation in life success. And finally, a 2011 survey of 2,600 hiring managers found that 71% of them valued EQ over IQ.
The fear of rejection is an irrational fear that has you convinced that people won't accept or approve of you due to your opinions, looks, personality, values, beliefs or behavior.
No matter what it is, one thing is clear, this is a very debilitating fear that significantly influences your daily choices, decisions, and action. In fact, while under the influence of this fear you will do things that you would normally not do if you didn't fear rejection.
For this very reason, your irrational fear of rejection is likely to impact your career prospects, your relationship with others, as well as your everyday social interactions.
Here, in our exploration, we will investigate how to better understand the fear of rejection. However, you may also be interested in learning more about how to handle your fear of rejection.
Living with the fear of rejection can be quite detrimental to our quality of life as it tends to impact and influence many aspects of our everyday experience.
Fearing rejection often makes you feel as though you’re incapable or merely unable to express your own personal opinions.
You hold back your opinions about certain things because you fear that other people might disapprove or disagree.
This fear can become so debilitating that you literally won't do or say anything that contradicts another person's opinion. You essentially become a people pleaser. Or, in other words, you do and say things not because you believe them, but primarily because agreeing with another person reduces the likelihood that you will be rejected.
What is the meaning of life? The question has become a slightly ridiculous cliché, so it's difficult to answer seriously. In fact, I would guess that many intellectuals and academics would argue that life has no real meaning. According to the conventional scientific view, we human beings are just chemical machines (or throwaway survival machines, in the phrase of arch materialist Richard Dawkins) whose only purpose is to survive and reproduce our genes. Otherwise, there isn’t really much of consequence in our lives. We may attempt to create other kinds of meaning — for example, by following a religion, trying to become rich or famous, or trying to make the world a better place — but all we’re really doing is following our genetic and neurological programming. Even our consciousness, the feeling of having experience inside our own heads, may not really exist, or may exist only as a kind of shadow of our brain activity.
However, I take the rather unfashionable view that there is meaning to life. I don't think we are just ghost-like entities living inside our machine-like bodies with an indifferent machine-like world out there. I don't think that human life is just a meaningless space between birth and death, for us to spend trying to enjoy ourselves and forgetting the futility of everything. I think that human life and the world mean much more than that. And this is not because I am religious — In fact, I consider myself an atheist.
Procrastination is without a doubt the ultimate enemy of success.
If you ask any entrepreneur, successful, wealthy, or educated person, they would all tell you so. The chances of you doing something today is far greater than that of tomorrow if none all at! If you want to be successful and accomplish your goals, then do it now.
Success doesn't come to those who wait but take it right away.
Procrastination should be the new 8th deadliest sin but at the very first position. Ask yourself how many times you have waited to do something later when you could have done it now? I know that answer is in the hundreds if not thousands for me.
After 5 weeks of going back and forth as to whether I should be a writer and wait at least 6 months to earn income or find a 9-5 job that pays weekly/biweekly. Well, that’s obvious, and I wouldn’t have traded it for a $200k yearly salary.
This crucial guide I share with you TODAY will open up all your dreams and opportunities that have been lurking inside of you for however many years. This guide will include some personal experiences of mine that may be similar to you, actions and habits from influential people, steps and things you can do or don’t do to make sure you never commit this sin again.
You know that state of confusion where you feel really unsure about what to do—you’re talking about it with all of your friends, making lists, weighing options, lying awake all night?
As confused and unsure as you may feel in those moments, you're not. You have much more clarity than you think.
Re-read that last line again. You have a lot more clarity than you think. You see, clarity is what you are. It's what you're born with, it's your true nature, and it's what is always there underneath the mess of confusing thought that sometimes dances on the surface.
Confusing thought is there in spades. Being lost in your own personal thought is what produces the feeling of confusion.
But are “you†actually confused? Nope, not in the least.
The feeling you call confusion is a big to-do that's created in your mind when you have all kinds of conflicting thoughts (for example, do it, don't do it, take a chance, why fix what’s not broken?) and you seriously entertain each of those as if they are helpful or important.
You innocently treat those thoughts as if they are each deserving of consideration just because they happen to be there, forgetting that thoughts are just blips of energy—they don’t possess qualities like “deserving.â€
When you’re in a big thought storm and you grab onto each disagreeing thought that wizzes by, it feels like serious brain muddle.
Everyone craves clarity. It's the only way to reach deeper into yourself to find out what makes you come alive. We all start from somewhere confusing, because you probably like to do a lot of things. Most people’s lives are still not perfectly clear. It’s a struggle almost every adult goes through. “What do I want to do with my life?†“What do I not suck at?†Millions of people have no clue what they want to do with themselves. And that’s okay. Self-discovery is a journey.
Curiosity, being open to explore the unknown, ready to embrace the surprises that come along the way, are essential attitudes for self-discovery and for gaining clarity about your own life purpose. If you are to succeed in life, you need to recognize that your level of success, and satisfaction will often depend on a lot more people who may or may not have direct impact on what you do or how you do it.
It takes courage to challenge the ideas and practices that make us successful. But in a world that moves and changes so fast, holding on to conventional wisdom is no more the best option.
In today's world, there are many people living with fear. Fear of failure, fear of commitment, and fear of death the list goes on. Some people feel uncomfortable just speaking about fear. However, it can be uprooted from your life.
The craving to become causes fears; to be, to achieve, and so to depend engenders fear. The state of the non-fear is not negation; it is not the opposite of fear nor is it courage. In understanding the cause of fear, there is its cessation; not the becoming courageous, for in all becoming there is the seed of fear. Dependence on things, on people, or on ideas breeds fear; dependence arises from ignorance, from the lack of self- knowledge, from inward poverty; fear causes uncertainty of mind-heart, preventing communication and understanding. Through self-awareness we begin to discover and so comprehend the cause of fear, not only the superficial but the deep casual and accumulative fears. Fear is both inborn and acquired; it is related to the past, and to free thought-feeling from it, the past must be comprehended through the present. The past is ever wanting to give birth to the present which becomes the identifying memory of the “me†and the “mine,†the “I.†The self is the root of all fear.
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